Finding Balance in My Crazy Life in Just 10 Minutes Per Day
Is your life anything like mine? Do you ever struggle to find balance between being a great wife, mom, career woman, figuring out what to cook for dinner, keeping the house clean, taking care of bills and paperwork, juggling a somehow-always-too-full schedule, keeping up with friends, spending money wisely, and, oh yeah, finding time to exercise? Is there any room left to breath or, dare I say it, take care of YOU in each busy day?
If so, you’re not alone. These are absolutely things I struggle with. Yet I love my life. I have an amazing family, work with some of the best people I’ve ever met, love my adorable 4 year old daughter to pieces, thrive on goal achievement, and have a few friends who would do anything for me and vice versa. I’m grateful every day for my tremendous list of blessings—God, family and friends, good food to eat, living in America, good health—it just doesn’t get any better.
Finding balance in life
How do I balance my crazy life? It’s a universal struggle all women seem to share. And while we’ve been blessed with superpower multi-tasking abilities (which sometimes backfire on us, right?) and women’s intuition we still struggle with the best way to spend our time every day. Time is finite and we all get the same amount, yet we try to stretch it, fight it, and squeeze more in it than really fits (kinda like my pre-baby jeans that refuse to fit whether I’m the same pre-baby weight or not).
So what’s the answer?
Well…I’ve come to realize a few things (and these are truly no-brainers but I’m gonna say them anyway!):
- I can’t do everything all the time.
- I can’t please everyone.
- I can’t be perfect.
- I can’t live a balanced life all the time.
- I can’t do everything…period!
And that’s the reality—and that’s OK.
Yet I know balance exists, success is possible, and that there IS a better way. With God all things are possible—even achieving and living out the dreams He’s given us in this fast-paced, always-busy world.
So here’s my question and commitment to myself, and my challenge to you:
What can I accomplish in just 10 minutes every day?
I can’t get up an hour earlier, stay up an hour later, devote 90 minutes daily to change, follow a complex 80-step process for balance, or remove any of the large time commitments in my life (my professional career alone takes up a huge portion of my week). But I CAN commit to doing something different, focusing on something specific and moving forward and finding balance in 10 minutes each day.
10 minutes is realistic. I can make that work.
If I can “get it done” in 10 minutes per day, then balance just might be possible.
But wait a minute, you may say (like I did), 10 minutes is not enough time to master anything! It’s not enough time for a full workout, to cook a full meal (except good ol’ peanut butter and jelly sandwiches), or clean a room in my house. It’s not enough time to really finish anything!
Or is it?
Call me crazy (and maybe I am), but as women we are killer-good at squeezing a lot of accomplishment into the time we’re given. And we should be proud of that! With a simple plan and a strong focus, 10 minutes IS enough time to accomplish a whole lot.
In 10 minutes, I can:
- Give my husband and daughter a hug, tell them how much I love them, and pray with them for an amazing day.
- Write 3 friends a thank you note or text to share that I’m thinking of them and make their day better.
- Encourage someone—or myself—to keep on keeping on, smile about 10 great things I’m thankful for, and make myself a cup of tea.
- Clean out one messy drawer and smile at the sense of accomplishment.
- Blow bubbles with my daughter and make it the highlight of the day.
- Drink a glass of water and eat a bowl of salad or a simple veggie and improve my health.
- Complete a tabata workout that will leave my heart racing and me dripping with sweat.
- Complete some yoga stretches that will leave me feeling loosened, relaxed, and alive.
- “Hide out” in a corner of my house (or in my car if I’m out-and-about) and read a just-for-fun book to decompress before I go back to the insanity that is sometimes my life.
- Make or pick up a cup of coffee, close my eyes and breathe in the aroma, and pray for wisdom and energy to continue the day.
- Balance my checkbook (I know, I’m old-fashioned, right?) and compare it to my budget and see how far on or off track I’ve gotten that week/month.
- Call or reach out to someone who’s hurting—or just trying to keep her head above water—and encourage her to keep going.
In 10 minutes, if I stop and focus, I can evaluate the direction of my life and stop doing things long enough to make sure I’m actually going in the right direction. In 10 minutes I can recapture the dream of what my life could be and ask God’s help to bring it to life.
Yes, in 10 minutes I can accomplish quite a lot. And you can too.
So please join me on my journey…
…to focus my life, specifically and strategically, for just 10 minutes each day. Because though 10 minutes won’t fix all my struggles or suddenly make everything perfect, it will slowly and steadily bring my life more in balance.
I absolutely don’t “know it all” or have all the answers or “secrets,” but I’ll be seeking advice from experts in each area below—especially if those experts are busy, successful women too—and sharing them with you.
I’ll be keeping it simple by focusing on the following 6 areas:
- Faith—spiritual health
- Family and Friends—most important relationships
- Finances—money management
- Fitness—physical health
- Food—what’s for dinner and more
- Focus—“wild card” category, including personal motivation, leadership and career, and how to identify and live our dreams
That’s it. 10 minutes per day, Monday through Saturday.
Each week I’ll post tips for 10 minutes of focus in the areas above. Check them out, and spend 10 minutes on the ones that apply to you. Balancing our lives is a process, not perfection, and that’s OK. We all get an “A” for effort if we can focus on something of significance for 10 minutes each day.
I’m excited to take on this challenge. Will you join me?
Would you be gracious enough to share your successes and tips with me in areas that work well for you? And laugh with me when things don’t go as planned and we fall on our faces, dust ourselves off, and try again?
Let’s do this! In 10 minutes per day, together we’ll find the energy and inner strength we need to succeed.
“Be aware of wonder. Live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.” Robert Fulgham
- Commit to 10 minutes of focus per day. Choose one of the 6 categories above, click on a corresponding article, and get started. I’m committed—are you in?
- Commit to your daily 10 minute “time slot.” (I highly recommend sometime when your family is asleep!) Mine = 6 am, daily (I’m up by then, but my family’s usually not).
- Set your alarm each day for your 10 minute commitment. Remember, this is a critical appointment you’re making with yourself—treat it like one and don’t miss it! (I’m setting both my cell phone alarm and my Fitbit alarm so I have no excuses.)
10 minutes per day, ladies—see you tomorrow.